Ambiamorous (adjective) Being open to either monogamous or non-monogamous relationships.
Birthday Party Poly
See Garden Party Poly.
Chosen family, or family of choice, is made up of people that fulfill the roles that family of origin often do. This can include care taking, emotional support, financial support, and sharing time at holidays or other special events.
Comet (noun) – A regular partner, possibly long-distance, that one connects with infrequently.
We see each other once a year, at the conference. We’ve been doing this for the past 10 years.
Compersion (noun) – The state of being happy for another person’s happiness. Often used to describe being happy at seeing one’s romantic partner experiencing happiness with other partners.
Chris and Dotty are romantic partners. Dotty is also romantically involved with Stan. Chris feels compersion when he sees how happy Dotty is with Stan.
See Ethical Non-Monogamy.
Don’t Ask Don’t Tell
A relationship style, in which the participants agree to non-monogamy, but do not want to know the details, or perhaps even the existence of, their partner’s other romantic or sexual relationships.
Bill and Ted are married and have a don’t ask don’t tell relationship. Ted doesn’t know that Bill is also dating Rufus. This doesn’t violate their don’t ask don’t tell relationship agreement.
Garden Party Poly (Birthday Party Poly)
A relationship style in which metamours don’t interact frequently, but are comfortable being in the same space for an event, such as the birthday party of their shared partner. This style can be considered to exist in the space between kitchen table poly and parallel poly.
Kitchen Table Poly
A relationship style which emphasizes frequent interactions between metamours. The term describes the idea that all of the people involved in the poly relationships would be comfortable sitting around the kitchen table, like a family.
Limerence (noun) A type of romantic attraction characterized by obsessive thoughts, fantasies, a desire for, but uncertainty about reciprocation. Limerence has been called the darker side of new relationship energy.